Spreading ICDP at full power
News about ICDP activities in Ukraine for the period from April to the end of October 2016.
"In Ukraine ICDP is spreading fast; all throughout 2016 we have been working at full power. We have trained staff in a great number of organizations and they are now using the ICDP programme in their work. We are very happy with the work as it has been a great success. We will continue with activities in 2017, and there are already requests for new training!" – ICDP trainers Anna Trukhan and Sergey Krasin.
Anna Truhan, the president of ICDP Ukraine, is a psychologist working for the International Charity Fund "Caritas-Kharkov", she writes:
“ICDP is present in all areas of my life: In my personal relationship with my husband and daughter; In my relationship with colleagues; When working with older clients; In my work with children; In dealing with ICDP facilitators; When I give information about the ICDP programme and conduct ICDP training workshops; When I am conducting training on other topics than ICDP.
I have an adult daughter Valeria (21). Like many mothers, I sometimes had a feeling that I "know best”, and this used to cause conflicts. When my daughter graduated from high school, I thought that she was not ready to choose her profession and so I chose it for her. My daughter did not like it and had difficulties studying as she did not find the topic interesting. The ICDP programme helped me to understand better the situations, wishes and needs of the people close to me. I follow the initiative of my child now and accompany, accept and support her choices. This year, my daughter chose where to go to continue her education – and she is happy.
When I conduct seminars, workshops or support groups, I try to feel the mood of the group, follow peoples’ initiative within the permissible limits. This allows me to keep the dynamics of group work. At work I communicate with people who have different levels of training, a different quality of life or social status, are of different age groups and have different experiences with children. There are sometimes experienced parents who raised several children, and the opposite - very young parents, there are educators, teachers, and psychologists. The principles of the programme are clear to all. They arouse a great deal of interest in people and increase their self-confidence.
When parents begin to apply the principles of the programme and observe the changes taking place in their children, they find their own ways to build a good relationship with them. My work is linked to children and families in crisis situations. Many of them are in difficult psychological and emotional states, both children and adults. Children respond to crisis differently. Their reaction depends on the reaction and behaviour of their parents. Such children may be nervous, tense, frightened, and aggressive. They may develop regressive disorders such as biting nails or enuresis. They all need acceptance and support. We started to play games that involved touching each other, and we offered to do it with children and their parents. We encouraged parents to hug and kiss their children through playing, giving their children massage and children were allowed to massage their parents. We encouraged parents to tell their children that they are loved and that adults are close by them. These simple techniques reduced levels of anxiety in children and their parents.
Irritability, tension, anxiety negatively affect relationships with family, friends and new acquaintances. Many internally displaced families find it harder to adapt to the new places, new towns where they have to move because of the military conflict, and find it difficult to integrate with the local population. People who have experienced crisis, grief or loss, often don’t allow themselves to show emotions and feelings. They believe that this will make them strong. The ICDP work with them lasted for about 6 months and gave good results. Parents learned to understand themselves and their child, their own feelings and emotions and the feelings and emotions of their children. We encouraged them to talk about it and not to be afraid to express themselves and taught them how to do it with their children. The emotional state of the children and the parents returned to normal, they became more open to dialogue and integration, which contributed to their better adaptation to the new life conditions. They found new friends among the local population. I also noticed that the principles of the ICDP programme contribute to the development of non-violent communication skills and the reduction of stress levels."